Ok so in Early June I started getting friend requests and messages on Facebook from strange men in foreign countries. I ignored them all because it just seemed creepy. Then I got one from a farily good-looking man from California. His name is Chris Williams. The message wasn't as foward as the others so I messaged back and accepted the friendship. We started IMing on Yahoo, chatting for hours, trading pics, and life stories. I thought maybe I should do some investigative work just to make sure. I didn't have a real reason per se but it couldn't hurt. So I messaged 2 of his friends on facebook to ask about his character. The one said she never met him but that he always seemed nice when they talked. The other was strange. It was a pic of a blonde white girl but the message I got back was someone whose first language was not English and then Chris messaged me and was very upset that I was asking around about him. He said that this friend said he should not deal with me anymore because I was obviously jealous and I didnt trust him. He made a huge fuss about me contacting her and he wanted to know who else I contacted. I repeatedly apologized and regained his trust. I then asked for some other information about him. His address in the US, his bussiness name (he told me he owned his own bussiness and that was why he was in Nigeria). He gave me the address of his house in California but not the one in Florida because he said that he was letting his uncle live there. Apparently this was supposedly the only family he had contact with. His wife and parents died in a car accident and his cousins are all assholes and they dont speak. He took his son, Jackson, with him to Nigeria as he was supposedly going to be there for 3 months. The bussiness name I did find on the Better Bussiness Bureau website. First he asked for $100 to pay the interent bill so that we could stay in touch. Yes, I paid it. I figured that wasn't a lot and even if it was a scam it wasn't so much to be upset about. Then a couple more weeks went by and we were planning our life together. He was going to come straight to see me when his bussiness was done. He was going to convince my family that he was going to love me and take care of me forever. Then the day that he got paid for his work there he got a check for $350,000.00. But couldn't cash it and had no cash to buy plane ticket home for him and Jackson. I sent $1,300 one week and 2 weeks later $1,800. He promised he would pay off my house and all of my bills and that he would take care of me and I would never have to work again. This was all of my money I earned working both of my jobs for an entire month. Then came the time he was supposed to be leaving Nigeria. He emailed me a copy of an itinerary from KLM so that I would be able to pick him up at the airport. Then 1 hour before the flight was due to leave Nigeria he emailed me about the ITA of $3,500. I told him that there was no way I could get that kind of money. He asked me to borrow it from friends or take out a loan. He said that I didn't have to give them the money they just had to see it before he boarded the plane so they knew he would be taken care of when he got back to the US. At first I thought they were just trying to scam him at the airport. When I mentioned that he got very defensive and said "I deal with people everyday. You dont think I know if I am being scammed?" At this point I broke out in a sweat. I knew I would never see my money again or him ever. That everything was a lie. I was so excited to meet the man of my dreams. I started learning Norwegian because he knew it. I told everyone I knew about him. I was head over heels and now it was all gone. I paid $3,200to have someone lie to me for 8 weeks about loving me. I told him that the ITA was fake. He insisted it wasnt. I said go to the US Embassy and they will help you and Jackson get home. The next day I get a call from his number from someone saying that they are from the US Embassy and that the ITA was real. I yelled at them and hung up. He called back 2 more times and I hung up on him each time. About an hour later, Chris calls and asked me if I believed him now about the ITA and if I would please help him get home because he wants to be with me. I told him I would see what I can do just to get him off of the phone. I ignored all messages and calls from him for about 5 days. The first day he called me 15 times. By the 5th day we were down to 3 times. About the 6th day I saw him online and decided to see how I could play with his emotions. I told him that I had been in the hospital. He said oh no baby. I should be there with you. Not once did he ask me what happened or why or how long I was there or if I was better. I told him that I tryed to kill myself because he hurt me so bad and I couldnt live without him. He still never asked about me. It was baby if you show the ITA I can get there to be with you. When you type out Initial Travelling Allowance into google this site come up and another one does too. Apparently he has been posted on that site for a while and actually sent them a reply about what they wrote on him "To Pig Busters: plz dont u ever send a scam list on my page because i never ask ur fu*king mother or family for any money u bit*h". I copied and pasted it to him. He got mad and said that he can't believe I insulted him that way and I missed out on a great guy. He has not yet tryed to contact me again. My life is peaceful but scary. The money I sent was all of my bill money for the month of July. No mortgage payment, no car payment,etc. I have decided that there is no one to be mad at but myself for this mess. I got myself in it and will get myself out of it. Whenever anyone asks me if I sent money I always say No to avoid that tongue lashing but I know people are suspicious of how much I am working and borrowing $20here or $40 there. Oh well...don't ask don't tell. My life is completely upside down financially. Please dont let this happen to you or anyone you know.